Sunday, October 29

Being Selfish the Way we Are -- Friendship !!

A Friend in need
Is a Friend indeed !!


The most famous qoute about friendship...and the most selfless nature of our lifes..and still it potrays vast amount of selfishness. We constantly require people to be there when we need them the most. We always expect that our best friends will be there...when we are in the worst!

Its fair enough to expect that ... but is not selfish to condemn the one who is not there... He promised to be your friend.. but he did not promise to be there at his expense.

How many times we encounter.. we are a friend of someones...because we want to be.. not because that there is a mutual understanding we be each others friend. Is there any case where A's best friend is B whilst B doesnt even call A his friend ?

What I am talking is not feasible, its not realistic.. but then.. why do we call friendships as selfless...are they really selfless ??

A & B are best friends, they hang out together ..they help each other ... they are there for each other almost always. But why, why don't they go out of there limited and venture with people they dont know. Do people have a very small appetite for friends ? No its not the appetitite thats in question. Its the question of fulfilling the obligations, that come along with it...

And the number of friends are the greater the number of obligations, and during this chain of fulfilling obligations, we realise, there is only a limited number of people, with whom we are able to complete this chain of obligatory deeds.

But being selfish, for our own needs, the relationship we call FRIENDSHIP, is an unique one for which there are some who really live for. This for a very simple reason, these are the people who know all your inhibitions, your flaws, your deeds which can be both good and bad, your stupidities, your annoying things, still stick around you , with you, for you.
They give you the frank advice, they criticize you but rarely compliment you for they know that they have to make you a better man so that they themselves will be proud to say " I am his Friend !"
They are there for you, will be for you and you will do the same.

Wandering around, all alone, I thought I was perfect, I was right
Someone tagged along, made me realise I was wrong,
With a browsed Ego, I still tagged along,
For I knew it was the shoulder on which I could lean On !!

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